You’re on a date with a great looking guy and there’s an obvious mutual attraction. You’re considering what you should do next, but the time to decide has already passed! There’s nothing more difficult than thinking clearly when you’re lost in the heat of passion. You need to decide on your limits before even going on the date.
- Don’t Be Joined To Someone You Shouldn’t
Remember the words of Corinthians 6:14;
“Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?”
You’re asking for trouble by dating someone who doesn’t share your personal relationship with the Lord. What are you going to do if you fall in love with them? You shouldn’t expect you can just cut the relationship off when it reaches a physical point.
- Wear the Armor of God Every Day
Christian’s need all the help they can get in the modern world. Do you spend enough time with God? Are you counting on him to give you the love and security you need? As Eph. 6:10 – 6:20 tells us, we can resist any temptation as long as we wear the armor of God.
- Passion Shouldn’t be Placed Above Obedience
We all know that not everything we do is right or feels good. If anything, most of the time we do things that are the complete opposite. It can feel good to lose ourselves to passion and temptation. Even so, your physical desires and drives are nowhere near as important as the authority of Christ. No matter how much society tells you to lose yourself to the moment, you should listen to Christ; who tells you to obey His word.
- Keep Physical Expressions Appropriate
You must correspond physical intimacy with commitment. This isn’t to say that being engaged means you can do anything you want. Physical intimacy shouldn’t be reduced to satisfying your own personal needs, and must stay in the context of the meaningful relationship.
- Set Mutual Limits
Both you and your partner must share the responsibility of setting limits. Keeping boundaries mutually reflects your maturity.
- Examine Personal Motives
What is motivating you? Is it the need for power, control, and to gratify your own ego? Are you looking to meet your selfish needs? Or are you genuinely looking for affection?
- Is the Physical Side of the Relationship too Strong?
If there is a strong physical relationship but the emotional, social, and spiritual aspects of the relationship aren’t in balance, then it’s time that you should rethink your relationship.
- Less is More
You shouldn’t do something physical if one of you is uncomfortable with it. Both of you should respect on another. You shouldn’t push your date into doing something that makes them uncomfortable, and you shouldn’t accept someone doing the same to you.
- Be Guided by Love and Not Lust
Love is born from the spirit. Love creates self-control. Operate not through lust, but love.
- Let Yourself be Directed by the Holy Spirit
If you find yourself feeling judged or convicted by a certain behavior, then stop doing it.